VICTOR EXTREMERA
SEVEN HABITS of HIGHLY
EFECTIVE PERSON
This section is dedicated to explaining a bit about how to be a highly effective person, something that I put into practice whenever possible.
01
PROACTIVE
To be proactive is to have control over one's own actions, without being affected by the attitudes of others. I apply this on several occasions in my daily life, one of them would be when I queue for the bus, and people sneak in, I could get annoyed, and get angry for a while, but I do not let it affect me.
02
BEGIN WITH THE
END IN MIND
In the future I want to excel in my career as much as in my personal life, I want to have all my friends around me and achieve the job I would like to do, so I can travel with them without fear of anything.
03
PUT FIRST
THINGS FIRST
This habit is about managing your life and therefore your time, classify the parts of your life in three sectors: rocks, stones or sand. Exemplify a glass, where these three types coexist, being the rocks the biggest, most important and occupying more space in the glass, being the glass your life. You have to classify what you think is most important and prioritize it in the long and short term. My rocks would be family, mental and physical health, friends and financial well-being. The rocks would be things like work and studies, which are really important, but at the end of the day, we are all going to the same place, and they are not really at the level of the rocks. And in the sand I would put the little things, such as entertainment, spontaneous trips, etc.
04
THINK WIN-WIN
WIN-WIN is the situation where all parties, with their beliefs and requests, come to an agreement in the middle, where everyone has something they were looking for. It is a middle ground of negotiation, where both parties benefit from the exchange.
For example, if my friend and I want to spend a day together, but I am very sporty and would like to go hiking, but he is more relaxed and would like to watch a movie. We could divide the day in two, in the morning we would go hiking and in the afternoon we would watch a movie quietly. This way we would both have what we want while spending time together which was the initial plan.
JAPANESE KANJI
EMPATHY
05
SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
This habit is based on active listening. Empathic listening.
This is listening with the ears, the eyes and the heart. You should not only hear, you should listen, understand, process, think about how he or she must have experienced it and support him or her. That's all.
For example, if someone tells you that his or her car broke down, instead of omitting what he or she said and explaining an anecdote of yours that envolves with what happened. You should rather understand them, and say something like:
"You must have had a hard time... That caught you in a bad place?".
A question that invites the person concerned to tell you more of the story, and feel appreciated and listened to for it.
06
SYNERGIZE
Synergy arises in situations in which not only the individual capabilities of a group are added to do something, but all individuals contribute and complement the rest, intertwined with each other, thus giving synergy.
Synergy gives better results than teamwork, it is its evolution so to speak. Figuratively, instead of having the 1 + 1 = 2 that a group has, it would be something like 1 + 1 = 3.
For example, the work that we do in groups, whenever we can choose I go with Samuel because we have a very good rapport, and we work together much more efficiently than with the rest of the colleagues we can have.
07
SHARPEN THE SAW
To maintain my mental, social, emotional and physical stability. I mainly go to the gym, this relieves my stress while maintaining me physically. I hang out with my friends to have fun and get away from my responsibilities for a while. Finally, dedicating time to meditation, even if it's only 30 minutes every two days, makes a difference in controlling my emotions.